I'm one of those people who really needs their alone time. I need time to decompress and go through the silly little routines I like to go through, like reading all of my new magazines while drinking tea, or crocheting and watching Star Trek. I even like going out to eat alone or going to museums alone. But sometimes that gets misconstrued as being antisocial or unhappy... It's neither. I love to be with friends, but I know that I'll get irritable if I don't have time to myself, too. I ran across this video the other day, and I think it explains alone time in a very lovely way.
This kind of segues into something else I was pondering today... I heard the song 'Everybody' by Ingrid Michaelson today after not hearing it for a while, and it made me think. If you haven't heard it the chorus is very simple:
"Everybody, everybody wants to love/ Everybody, everybody wants to be loved."
I went through a pretty rough break-up about two months ago, and I've been avoiding love songs like the plague, as one usually does in such circumstances. But this song seemed more like a forgiveness song than a love song today... We're all just sort of bumbling around, wanting to find beings to love and be loved by-- parents, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, pets, whomever. Being reminded of that makes it very hard to be angry with anyone. We're all looking for the same thing, love that makes us feel interdependent (not to be confused with codependent-- very important) and appreciated and want to become the best selves we can be. If I already know that about every person I meet and that I've already known, how can I be overly upset with any of them?
Huh. Maybe I won't be a bitter old lady at the age of 20 after all.