Today is my dad's birthday. He would have been turning 57.
One of my favorite memories of my dad actually happened over the phone. I was walking down 8th Avenue, talking to my dad on my phone, and it was right around this time of year, because we were talking about his birthday. He said, "I went this whole year thinking I was going to be turning 56, but when I said that to your mom, she said I was only going to be turning 55! I did the math, and she was right! How about that? I just turned a year younger on my birthday."
I miss my dad so much every single day. There are days when it's almost impossible to deal with having lost him. I've been trying to deal with it in part by living in a way that he would be proud of and following the wonderful example that he set. One of the things that stands out most to me was how openly he expressed how much he loved his family. Pretty much every time he saw one of us (which was a lot, because my parents worked at home, something for which I'm extremely grateful), we'd get a "Love you, Hon," (to my mom,) "Love you, Bud," (to my brother,) or "Love you, Jules" (to me). One of the things that has comforted me most since losing him is the knowledge that there was absolutely no doubt about how much we cared for each other. I'm never going to have to look back and say "I wish I had told him I loved him more often."
|This is from my high school graduation party, one of my very favorite memories.
That's what I'm trying to incorporate into my own life-- letting people know that I care about them, and that they're special to me, and never to take anyone for granted because life truly is too short for that. So if I can make a little request of you, my dear and sweet readers who have given me so much support over the past year, I would request that you help me celebrate my dad's birthday by finding someone who is special to you and telling them how much they mean to you. Let them know that you're there for them, and that your life is enriched because they are in it. Tell them you love them while they can hear you.